Golden Anniversary

 



        I am aware that a golden anniversary is 50 years. However, if a golden birthday is the year when the day of your birth and age match, why can't it be the same for anniversaries? Just a thought that came to me.

        There are many things I have learned over 21 years of marriage. Today I thought I'd share a few with you. These are, of course, in no specific order.

        You do not know what you are getting into when you get married. You may think you know and if you've lived together you may have a pretty good idea, but until you actually take the plunge, start down the road or climb into the ship of marriage together you don't really know. You can discuss and plan and do all the things they tell you to do in the pre wedding marriage class, it's helpful but it won't cover everything that can and does come up during marriage. Hopefully you have the kind of relationship that allows you do deal with the unexpected and learn from the mistakes that will inevitably happen.    

        You and you spouse will change over time.  Humans were never made to remain the same. You will not be the same person you were when the rings and vows were exchanged. If nothing else you won't look the same. Weight will be gained or lost, hair will fall out or change colour, scars and other skin changes will occur. Experiences will cause you to look at things differently. Habits will be acquired or abandoned. You learn new things. This is part of the journey. I once read that marriage is two people working to help the other become the best version of themselves. Doing this involves change. 

        You and you spouse will not agree on everything and that is ok. Personally I think it would be really boring if both of you agreed on everything. Now there are some things you do need to agree on when it comes to things like raising children and finances and other important topics. You do not need to like all the same foods, books movies or hobbies. C and I are like that. He likes movies, ham sandwiches and playing pickleball. I prefer reading books, boiled peanuts and bike riding. We have differing opinions on certain things based on our individual experiences. I respect his opinions and he respects mine because we know that comes from what he has learned over his life and vice versa.

        You need to be flexible in marriage. You may wind up moving or changing jobs. You or your spouse may lose a job, deal with a serious illness or issues with other family members. It helps to be flexible and remember that circumstances always change. Nothings stays bad or good forever. celebrating and coping together is one of the best things, in my opinion, about marriage.

        Always have each others back. This is important. I know that it is easier for me to do hard things when I know I have C's support. I know he appreciates the support I give him. When things are tough it's good to know there is one person in your corner when no one else is. 

        I'm grateful and feel lucky that 21 years ago tomorrow, C and I started out on the adventure that is our life together. I'm glad I get to do life with him. 


Comments

  1. Charlie the husband☺️August 20, 2025 at 10:28 AM

    Kc is the very best of all I could hope for in marriage and life!!

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  2. AnonymousAugust 21, 2025 at 8:25 AM

    Thank you. Beautifully said.

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